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PARENTING CHALLENGES
by Simone Westone
http://www.diaparenting.com
There are many challenges to being a parent, however, the
rewards can be endless. There is no guidebook, or set of
rules written in stone that tell you how to become the
perfect parent. There is no such thing, most of us raise
our children along the same way our parents raised us. This
is not always true though, and many parents go with their
feelings when it's their turn to be parents. Many of us
learn along the way and in doing this, we sometimes learn
discover things we never knew about ourselves.
It is not easy being a parent and it's the luck of the draw
on whether your kids will be angels or devils in training.
Some children can be very stubborn and they really push
their parents real close to the breaking line sometimes.
Many times though this can be a phase the child is going
through at a certain time in their lives and it doesn't
always have to be frustrating to a parent. Stubborn
children are starting to learn what the like and don't
like, and they are learning to express their opinions.
If the stubbornness persists, they may be using this as a
way of getting your attention and if this is so, then
talking with your child will help the both of you better
understand each others needs and act on them accordingly.
Getting angry and frustrated with your child's behavior
will only make things worse and as you child grows older,
their actions may become more aggressive and harder to
control.
For this type of parenting, you need to talk to your child,
asking if there is something wrong. Be patient, trying
your best to get to the root of the problem. With this
information, the real issue can be addressed. The key to
successful parenting in this situation is to avoid
conflict. For the stubborn child, you need to have time
when the two of you can sit down, one-on-one. Therefore,
if your child is busy watching a movie, reading a book,
or working on a project, allow him or her time to complete
the task. When there is a break in the action, talk to
your child.
Children learn at a very early age how to be great
manipulators and they will try to see how far you can be
pushed before you will give up and allow them to have their
way. Show them there are rules for everybody and we must
abide by them. If he or she is out playing and you tell
them to be in the house for dinner in 15 minuets then stick
to it. If they don't come in when you tell them, there will
be consequences.
A stubborn child may be a bit harder to deal with but
if you don't assert yourself as a parent while their young,
you may be in for some really big rebellion problems in
the future. Be a parent and act like one, you are not
their friend. So many parents a afraid their children will
not "like them," they are not supposed to like you all the
time. But they will always love you, and as they grow
into adults, they will see you were right about the rules.
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